The whole area of needs and wants, and getting your needs met is widely
misunderstood and misinterpreted.
First and foremost, it is important that you are clear about your own needs. It is your
personal responsibility to become mindful and stay mindful of your own needs and
wants.
It is also important to be aware of the needs and wants of your partner.
By answering the following questions, you will find it easier to identify where you may
need to do some work:
How comfortable are you with the idea that your needs are legitimate?
Do you respect your needs?
Do you know which needs you can meet by yourself?
Do you believe that some of your needs can be met by your partner?
How able and willing are you to honor your needs that you cannot meet by
yourself and ask your partner to help you meet those needs?
To Think About Today: Meeting your own needs, getting some of your needs met
by your partner, and meeting some of your partner’s needs are important aspects of co-
creating a vision of your life with your partner.
Dr. Jackie Black
Relationship Expert,Marriage Educator, Board-Certified Coach to Couples
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